Update on my Son

As you may remember from posts a while ago we had problems with my son J. Well things have certainly hit the fan this time.
About 2 weeks ago we received a message from his now ex girlfriend saying that she had received 205 sms in one hour from him. Obviously she wasn’t happy about this. It needed to be stopped. It was just the same message over and over again.
We were also made aware of a Facebook message from him that he was sick of his life (or words to that effect) and that he would be around the next day.
The next day, I made numerous phone calls on his behalf trying to get info about his right and what to do as he was soon to be made homeless. I text him the details and phone numbers to contact. No reply. D also tried ringing him. No answer. So due to that and the messages from Facebook we decided we had no option but to ring the police. For all we knew, he could have been lying dead in his flat.
The Police could not find him and turned up at our house for info after being given incorrect info by their control room that it was us that had received the 205 sms. We corrected them and told them the full story about what had been happening in the past and present to the best of our knowledge.
They then visited J’s ex while the search for J continued in his area. They eventually found him and had words and gave a warning about harassing his ex. Within an hour he had text his ex again, just the once but with a message that could be interpreted as a threat. She immediately rang the police who once again spoke to her then went and seen him and this time, she has taken an injunction out against him. She was too frightened to even go to work for a couple of days.
We have in the past said to her, that if he continued, an injunction may be the best option.
Since then J sent me a few nasty text. D had a blazing text argument with him and she didn’t hold back much. She was so annoyed at the messages he sent me, his dad. I too was annoyed at the messages he was sending D during their argument that I was close to going to see him face to face but D stopped me.
He seems to blame me and D for his ex getting the injunction, saying that we told her to. He also seems to be so angry that he believes we have taken her side completely in this.
We have done loads for him and tried to help him and advise him but even though he may agree and promise not to do certain thing, he goes and does them anyway.
He has since removed and blocked me on Facebook and before doing that he changed his surname form mine back to his mother’s maiden name. Bearing in mind, he cannot stand his mother or her family, I think this is an attempt to wind me up. He also changed his mam and dad to some people I have never even heard of. This to me is a bit confusing. He is basically denying I am his dad but also making himself look silly.
I have not heard from him in over a week now and as it stands at the moment, I have no intentions of contacting him. The whole thing has been so stressful and upsetting I didn’t sleep properly for a good few days.

Fab and liberating day

Last Friday, D and I had the day to ourselves which is a rarity.
Once we had watched our daughter playing trumpet in a school show we were free. We went to a beachside cafe to sample the sausage and bacon sandwiches that we had heard so much about from friends. They were so tasty. And the coffee was lovely as well.
From there we set off to a local beach to sunbathe and relax. The beach in question is about 3 mile long and part of it is unofficially a nudist beach. We decided to give this a go seeing as we were feeling adventurous. The part of the beach for nudists is very quiet, only the occasional couple walking past with their dogs. No one bothered that we were naked. It felt very liberating. The feeling of the light breeze blowing round our bodies was so nice and relaxing.
Where we sat was at the back of the beach next to the dunes. We both to the opportunity to walk naked down to the waters edge which was about 100yards from us. This was a big step for both of us, more so for D who is a bit self conscious. It was amazing seeing her walk down to the water. This was a major thing for her and I am so proud of her for doing it.
We stayed there for at least 4 hours and enjoyed every single minute of it and didn’t want to put our clothes on after it.
I would recommend anyone to try it, even once. Its such a good feeling.

Work, PAH!!!!!!! Tomorrow, BRING IT ON!!!!

In the last 2 weeks I have returned to my job. The job I hate. The job that stresses me so much. The job where people get threatened with the sack for not hitting targets etc, despite having nearly 10 years service. As you can tell, I’m thrilled to be back in the grind. I’m not going to mention the companies name but they have been a relatively good employer over my time there but this one department I work on is really bad for stress and worrying about your job. I have asked for a transfer to another department, only to be told that I have to wait till they are advertised on the internal jobs board. I so need to move. I wake up in the mornings dreading going to work. It shouldn’t be like that. I’m determined to transfer. Loads sit and moan but do nothing about it. I don’t want to be like that, I want out of that department.

That’s my rant over and off my chest.

Tomorrow is going to be a good day for me and D as she has taken the day off as holiday to be with me. We will be child free for the whole day and night. Wooohoooo!!!!
We are planning to go to this bar/café in Tynemouth to get a breakfast. Apparently the sausage and bacon sarnies are to die for so we have wanted to try them for ages. After that we plan on just driving and see where we end up. We obviously, are hoping for good weather. We may even try out one of the nudist beaches near here (weather permitting), but if it continues to rain, we will still have fun, whatever we do or wherever we go, as we are together.
You see, lately we have undergone what I suppose is a transformation in our relationship. We have been stuck in a rut for so long and we both felt it was getting a bit boring and monotonous. D woke up one day like a new person and it’s like having a new wife. She decided she didn’t want to be the old D anymore and wanted to be more positive and happy. This had a great effect on me. I found myself changing as well. I have bought new clothes, feel a lot better in myself and feel 100 times happier with our relationship. The physical side of our relationship has rocketed. We can’t keep our hands off each other. We both miss each other every day while at work. We send lovely sms to each other everyday. We snuggle up at night in front of the TV instead of sitting there hardly speaking. I, for one, feel like a new person. Neither of us saw this coming. It was literally an overnight thing. So weird but so very, very welcome.

Work

Well today’s the day I go back to work after being off 13 weeks. I have to admit I’m not looking forward to it. I’ll let you know how it goes.

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Local news

What a contrast 2 days can make. Yesterday, as some of you would of seen, a gunman shot a police officer, apparently unprovoked in the chest with a shotgun. The area where we live has a weird feeling about it at the moment as this man is yet to be captured. The night before shooting the policeman, he shot and wounded his ex girlfriend and shot dead her new boyfriend in another town not far from here. This has been on Sky News all the time, and from what I understand, he may well be the most wanted man in the UK.

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Well happy

Just been to the local garden centre to get a tomato plant and feed to go in the greenhouse. The lovely girl on the till told us that outside there was some chilli plants going for free. I got a whole tray of mixed varieties of pepper plants and leeks. Over the moon with the bargain. The chillis will go nice in a con carnie. Mmmmm

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Molly relaxing in the sun

A peaceful moment for her.

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Our garden addition

Sorry for no posts lately. Other things have been getting in the way.
This week, I’ve gone all green fingered in the garden. We bought one of those polythene greenhouses. I never had one before so I’m quite chuffed. We couldnt have a glass one as the kids round here would have the glass smashed in no time at all.
We have got a few Alpine strawberry plants, and rosemary ( both donated by our kind neighbours ). We have a half dead mini rose plant which I’m wanting to try and revive and also a few pots with different seeds and bulbs in. It may be too late in the year for some of them but I’ll take my chances, seeing as the weather is all over at present. We may get some tomato plants and chilli plants as well.
This is it, with out table in the background with all sorts of other stuff on it, including potted weeds which we need to sort. Check out our ever expanding gnome collection as well.